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OscarMeyer Weiner's avatar

First, you're not the only one who has trouble accepting compliments. My friend and I used to "joke" about things we needed to fix in our lives, whether large or small. We'd say, "Admitting you have a problem is the first step." With that real, accurate advice I'm going to tell you that you're already a step ahead because you noticed it. You'll continue to try and say things differently, and sometimes you'll fail. Giving yourself grace (and others) goes a long way, especially when we feel discouraged.

So, with that, I say GOOD JOB and thanks for the granola recipe. I like to pretend I'll make my own, but I won't. At least not right now. But I DO love granola. Thanks for being open and vulnerable and reminding us that we're all moving along in life. Sometimes we skin our knees, and sometimes we have a perfect "10", but we can keep going at whatever pace is fitting.

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Hannah's avatar

Okay I really love this one. And need to try this granola 👀

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Marcelle Gianelloni's avatar

OMG what you have written is so true to me. I struggle to accept compliments. Been working on it as you have. Thanks for sharing this. And I love granola.

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Todd Brunsvold's avatar

This was the reframe I didn’t even know I needed to hear! I respond like this a lot to compliments and I’ve never really thought about how it must sound to the people on the other side. Thank you for giving me something to think about and some tools to respond in a different way.

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Bev's avatar

This was a great read Andrew - the good news i think is we all stuff up all the time and imperfect people make other people relax - so all we have to do is improve things if we want to because it's fun to try and share about , but no pressure! i always do better when there's zero pressure

thanks for what looks to be an excellent granola recipe as an added bonus

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Linda Golden's avatar

I was a teenager and hated my hair one day. Of course my dad had to say "Nice hair, kid." It was a sincere compliment, and I was completely mortified. I responded with "I hate it; it looks terrible." Then came the earful of: "when someone compliments you, it doesn't matter what you think. That person went out of their way to notice something, decided they liked it, and told you about it. Accept it gracefully, otherwise you're just rude." That was a life lesson I learned 40 years ago, and I've never forgotten it. So trust me, you're not the only one struggling with accepting compliments. Love all your posts, btw. I still repost your Find Momo photos anytime they pop up in FB memories. My friends love them. God bless you, Andrew

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